An Observation about Human Behaviors

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   The day I am writing this in my notebook (15 March), one of my bus riders was suspended for the rest of the week from school. I took him home as usual, then my bus driver and I found out when we finished for the day. When we went to pick him up, we heard him yelling and screaming at the teacher and purposefully staying away from the teacher. 

  Now, just at first glance, I suspect that you scoffed at his behavior and judged him to be a terrible kid. I wouldn't lame you. He appears that way, even to me on certain days. With this in mind, I would like to offer an observation that is a slight tangent to this. 


  When a child is being well-behaved, we as adults or older teenagers tend to leave that child alone. They are well-behaved, so why wouldn't we? Then a misbehaving child comes along and we want to watch them like a hawk and control what they are allowed or not allowed to say or do very strictly. We hover over that kid and make sure they toe the behavioral line. 

  What if we found a happy medium between these two types of opposing behavior for kids? One that allows both children to feel they have space and that they can reach out for positive attention and affirmation when needed without being overly trusted to behave or overly scrutinized for their lack of behavior? 

  It is a simple idea that requires sacrifices of time, trust, and patience in each behavioral extreme. In the end, it might prove to be beneficial to both types of children. The child that tends to behave well will be praised and be given attention when they want to do or say something, and the child that misbehaves will be given the space to really process their feelings and be able to learn how to behave in a better way. 

 

  This is just a thought from someone who has seen what different types of attention can do to children, especially when they are acting or reacting in certain ways. Maybe the time we can spend patiently teaching and guiding children to process and express themselves can give society in general a better collective of teens and adults in the future. 

  Then again, this is just my opinion. If there is something you think I should consider, then please let me know. 

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